My assumption of you, the reader, is that you are a woman whose husband or boyfriend is sexually submissive.
He may have expressed an interest in exploring this with you. You are already exploring this dynamic but are looking for added suggestions to try with him. You may also be a man who hungers to submit to a woman but needs something to show her to give her a better idea of what being submissive means.
I’m also assuming that both you and your partner are heterosexual. Some of you may be bisexual or bicurious, but I am focusing this article on purely monogamous activities. Sexual activities with others outside the relationship are beyond the scope of this article. Still, they can be a delicious addition if the connection is secure, and both partners are willing!
There are strong themes of BDSM and sexual domination in this article. It is the nature of the kink. If those do not interest you, then this is not the article for you. This is not an exhaustive list. It is also highly likely that every single suggestion in this article will not apply to your man. It is up to you to pick and choose the proper ones that will arouse both of you while avoiding the ones that will deter his submissive nature. Do not be surprised if you find some suggestions here that are disinteresting while reading others that apply perfectly!
PREFACE. Sexually submissive men hunger to be controlled and directed. He wants to be in sexual servitude to our woman, and for her to take the lead in directing sexual activities. He also often has a strong affinity for humiliation. I will describe several activities and scenarios below, but two primary topics are staples – dare I say requirement – when exploring with your sexually submissive man:
1. ANAL PENETRATION. Honestly, allowing someone to penetrate man or woman anally is one of the most submissive acts that He submissive men can perform. It is a combination of both pleasure and vulnerability. It is something He craves, it fulfills a fundamental need, and should be used by the female in the relationship. I will describe various methods and related activities below.
2. CUM EATING It is not typically normal for a man to consume his own seed, yet He often does it anyway. Nature intends to inseminate a woman to propagate our DNA. The fact that sex is pleasurable for both of us ensures the survival of the species. Being forced to consume one’s own ejaculate is preventing that. It registers at an extraordinarily strong level in our brains. I am not saying that a woman should never receive her submissive man’s semen during sex. Many women enjoy the taste of cum and are turned on by feeling their lovers ejaculate inside their mouths. Having a man cum inside you is a very intimate part of lovemaking. What I am saying is that outside those activities, while exploring your man’s submissiveness, he should always be made to consume his cum.
ORGASM OWNERSHIP/DENIAL. You own his cock. The semen he produces is yours and yours alone. You will make it clear that he is never to self-pleasure without permission. He is never to waste his sperm, that you decide its final use and destination, and that you dictate when and if he experiences an orgasm. Just temper this with a merciful attitude. It is OK to deny him release, but be sure to reward him occasionally when he has excelled in his devotion and servitude to you.
BODY HAIR. Removal of body hair, specifically pubic, rectal, and underarm hair, adds an exciting dynamic to the situation. The submissive male should be instructed that he is always to remain hairless in these areas. This hair is an especially important secondary sexual characteristic for a man when he enters puberty. It is an outward sign of his male sexuality, and you are removing it from him. It has also inconspicuous in case the male wishes to hide his submissiveness from the rest of the world, which is usually the case. Periodic inspections by you, the dominant female, add to the erotic value of this.
ANALINGUS This is the first of the oral servitude activities I will mention. The submissive male is eager to please and pleasure you while being denied his sexual gratification. Long sessions of licking and rimming your (clean) asshole is a worthwhile activity to add to your courses. You shower and apply your make-up every morning. One possible suggestion is to require that he kneel behind you, spread your buttocks with his hands, and worship your anus with his tongue while you apply your make-up in the nude, dry your hair, etc. It is a short window but powerfully reinforces his place as the submissive.
CUNNILINGUS. This, of course, is his worship and devotion to your “holy of holies.” (No pun intended.) He loves the taste of you, your femininity, and your feminine nectar. You come home from work after a long day, and he is on his back either on the floor or bed, you remove your panties and squat over his face. His senses will be overwhelmed by the strong musk of your pussy and saltiness of sweat. Make him worship it. Or even deny him the pleasure.
CREAM PIE EATING. Of course, you are going to allow your submissive male to climax inside you. Because your pussy is worthy of his oral worship and attention, he should never leave his seed inside it as he might fertilize you. It should be noticeably clear that if you intend to enforce his submissiveness that he thoroughly licks you clean and swallow what he ejaculated inside you. You can also squat over his face and allow his semen to leak from you as he licks and consumes it.
LINGERIE. Make him buy it for you. Make him pick it out in the morning. Tell him that you will feel so sexy while you are out around other men because of what he selected to dress you in. This does not imply that you will cheat on him, but he is making you look sexy to him without obtaining the sexual release he desires. A woman could decide to make him wear her panties, but that is more feminization and might not appeal to him. Discuss it with him beforehand.
CAGES. Allowing his woman to enclose his penis with an enclosure under lock and key is very submissive. It reaffirms you own it and denies him the ability to self-pleasure. He only receives sexual pleasure when you release him.
BUTT PLUGS. His asshole is yours. As I mentioned previously, anal penetration is an immensely powerful act of submission. Have your submissive male wear a plug, especially in public, and often inquire if he still has it in. Lewdly suggest that if he feels uncomfortable with it, that he will be even more uncomfortable later when you stretch his anus even more.
STRAP-ONS. Easily, this is one of the most effective tools to use when you want your man to feel submissive and to nurture his submissive nature. Do not get one that is too large – you do not wish to injure him or cause an aversion to having it used on him. Typically, you will be dressed in very sexy lingerie while sporting your strap-on. The male should regularly kneel in front of you and fellate it as if he were fellating a real cock. Tell him how sexy he looks by sucking your cock. Make him tell you verbally that your cock is beautiful, to thank you for allowing you to suck it, and to beg you to fuck him with it.
…and fuck him with it! He should be face down, ass up high in the air, and presenting his anus for you to penetrate. Grab his hips, fuck him like you want a man to fuck you, and tell him he is a slut – your slut. Do not be surprised if he ejaculates from the prostate stimulation he receives from your artificial cock. At the very least, he will be leaking prostatic fluid from his penis.
PROSTATE MASSAGE. Allowing a woman to penetrate him anally is a very submissive act for the male. Massaging a man’s prostate and expressing his prostatic fluid is a form of orgasm denial. Using your fingers with a gloved hand is especially arousing for us. If his ass is up in the air and you are behind him while you do this, his penis will “ooze” thick, prostatic fluid. It will usually drip and pool on the floor beneath him. Make sure you have something to collect it in or something it can puddle on so that he can be easily made to lick it up and consume it afterward.
ENEMAS. This will not be everyone’s choice, but receiving an enema from a woman is a very humiliating act and heightens the man’s sense of submission. The woman controls the release of warm, soapy water into the man. It floods his bowels and causes uncomfortable cramping. One of the last things a man wants to do is to move his guts in front of a woman. In this scenario, he cannot until you permit him. When he does, you will be sitting across from him, looking him in the eyes as he reluctantly releases. It is humiliating, but doing it in front of a woman is a very submissive act.
FORCED ORGASMS. These can be from handjobs, blowjobs, etc. Many times, the orgasm is called a ruined orgasm, where physical stimulation of the penis is stopped once ejaculation starts. This is maddening – his hips will thrust to continue stimulation, and the emission of semen will stall. It’s a strong reinforcement that you are in control and determine his level of sexual pleasure.
An alternative scenario to the forced orgasm aspect is to combine the clothed female / nude male (CFNM) dynamic to the activity. He is nude, you are fully clothed, and in turn, he senses your authority. You can also have him masturbate for you while you watch, in a CFNM setting, and instruct him to ejaculate into a shot glass, on a plate, etc. Force him to consume it afterward, or use a spoon or your finger to feed it to him.
YOUR HOT PAST. This can be a dicey subject to broach, but often a submissive man enjoys hearing about the earlier sexual exploits of the woman he loves and worships. Knowing that you’ve sucked a big cock and swallowed its ejaculate can be arousing, as well as finding out your pussy has been stretched by a cock larger than his makes you even more of a sexual goddess to him, and worthy of being worshiped. You can choose to emphasize how much smaller he is than your earlier lover if he is into that. Even if you have never had a bigger cock, you can fib. Be sure and embellish how good it felt.
SUMMARY. This is not an exhaustive list of activities and suggestions to apply to your submissive male, but it should be a good starting place. Just remember that communication is the most important “activity” and that he must convey his needs and desires to you. Revealing those most intimate details to you is also a form of submission.