Do you like to be in control? Do you like it when someone else finds you powerful? Then the role of dominant may suit you well. But what exactly does that role entail, or rather: how can you best fulfill that role?

Do you want to be a dominant?

Being dominant: you’ve thought about it and maybe fantasized about it. You have just discovered your dominant feelings or perhaps you are with someone who would like to be dominated. You have decided that you want to be a dom (male) or dommes (female). But there is a big difference between wanting to be dominant and being dominant. Before you start your role as a stupid person, you need to know what that role means at all. It is not as simple as many people think. A dominant is not just bossy. And did you know that a female Dominatrix is ​​paid for her services? Read and learn !

What is dominance?

Dom is short for dominance. Other words used for this dominant role are D, sadist and master or mistress. Are you dominant in daily life, then you are the one who determines what happens. He or she is also the one who hits and uses nipple clamps or handcuffs on the sub. A stupid can dominate skillful person. Do you feel comfortable when you are in control of a situation? The best way to find out which role suits you best is self-examination. At BDSM, the dominant partner likes to humiliate or correct another with bondage. A dom can also dominate the submissive in such a way that the sub hardly does anything without permission or assignment. The dominant enjoys the reaction of his or her sub and that makes him or her feel good.

How do you dominate your sub?

A sub gives the dominant complete confidence and thus the power to push the boundaries. These limits are always discussed before the start of the BDSM game. The dominant and sub must both be given the opportunity to fulfill their fantasies and deepest desires. During the game it seems as if the dominant is in control, but the sub actually determines the limits of the game. Obviously, the dominant should absolutely not cross those boundaries. If it goes too far for the sub, he or she can use the agreed stop word or sign.

Do not cross borders

A true dominant knows how far he or she can go. Dom knows which boundaries can be crossed and which absolutely cannot. He or she does not enforce respect by his or her title and status, but by his or her attitude and appearance. A dominant pays attention to the physical and mental condition of the sub. A dominant has respect for the sub and treats him or her accordingly. As a stupid you don’t have to ask for permission. Just do what you plan to do and get your submissive on the bed without asking. Do not untie your sub until you like it. Your sub has no say in this, even if he or she looks at you with a begging look. Only when you use the sub stop word should you stop what you are doing.

What can you do as a dominant?

There are several ways to express your dominance.

Command

Order your sub to do something. If he or she disobeys, speak to your sub about it. If necessary, give your sub a punishment if it gets too furry. You are stupid, so your sub should listen to you. Anyone who does not want to hear must feel.

Bondage

Tie down your sub without asking his or her permission. Your submissive can only be released if you want to.

Pain stimuli

Administer the submissive painful stimuli using a sex toy. This can be, for example, a whip or nipple clamps.

Physical dominance

Show with your body language that you are the boss. For example, pull your sub’s head back by his or her hair. That doesn’t have to hurt, but you do show who’s in charge.

Verbal dominance

Your language is dominant. Words and phrases like ‘please’ or ‘if you want’ do not appear in your dictionary. An order is an order.

Two kinds of doms

There is a distinction between two types of doms. One type of dominant is the sexual dom. This type is mainly interested in sexual dominance. He or she is a sexual sadist and enjoys applying intense sensual (pain) stimuli to the sub. The other type is the dominant that dominates all aspects of life. This dominant is more concerned with being in control within the relationship and having control over his or her partner than with dominating on the sexual level. Of course it is not necessarily so black and white and these two types can overlap. Domination does not always have to be accompanied by pain or sadism. It depends on what appeals to you and your partner.