WHAT DOES UNDECIDED MEAN?

Are you new to the BDSM community and don’t know which role suits you? Are you a dominant or do you like the role of leathergirl? If you don’t know which role to take on, you can take the label undecided. Someone who is undecided is a person who currently cannot identify with a particular role. This may be because you are new to the BDSM world and you have not yet become acquainted with the different roles. As a result, you do not know exactly which role suits you. But it may also be that you have been a rope bunny for a while, but that you no longer find that role suitable for you and that you are looking for a new label.

When are you undecided?

Many people find out at some point that they (want to) be kinky and want to do something with BDSM. There are so many roles they can take at that time that most people can no longer see the forest for the trees. They feel the pressure to immediately choose a role and can therefore make incorrect decisions. It’s good to know that you don’t have to choose a label right away. It’s fine if you don’t know what role you want to play yet. In those cases you can label yourself undecided. This also gives more clarity to others. You indicate that you do not know at the moment and that you are looking for a new label. Other BDSM people might help you in your search by giving you advice or playing different role-playing games with you.

How do you know which role suits you best if you’ve never taken that role before? That is a good question. First of all, it is good to know that you do not choose a role for life. If you have chosen a role, you can always change it later. So you are not your whole life stuck to the role you chose in the beginning. That would not work out well for most people. Your taste can change or you discover other roles that also seem very interesting to you . The popularity of the roles is also constantly changing. Right now, for example, the daddy stupid / little girl relationship is super popular.

What roles are there actually?

There are tons of different roles you can take on. You do not have to choose one specific role because you can also have several. For example, a top can be a dominant, sadist, daddy and kinkster at the same time. These roles include:

  • Dominant
  • Stupid
  • Switch
  • Submissive
  • Master
  • Mistress
  • Slave
  • Kajira
  • Kajirus
  • Top
  • Bottom
  • Sadist
  • Masochist
  • Sadomasochist
  • Kinkster
  • Fetishist
  • Swinger
  • Hedonist
  • Exhibitionist
  • Voyeur
  • Sensualist
  • Princess
  • Slut
  • Doll
  • Sissy
  • Rigger
  • Rope Top
  • Rope Bottom
  • Rope Bunny
  • Spanko
  • Spanker
  • Spankee
  • Furry
  • Leatherman
  • Leatherwoman
  • Leather Daddy
  • Leather Top
  • Leather bottom
  • Leathergirl
  • Leatherboy
  • Bootblack
  • Primal
  • Primal Predator
  • Primal Prey

This is just a selection of the roles that exist. So it’s easy to understand that a newcomer to BDSM doesn’t know what to choose. The best solution is to temporarily use the label undecided so that you can figure out what suits you best.

Example from the community

“I’m fairly new to the BDSM community and I’ve decided to get involved. I actually had no idea that there are so many labels and I don’t know where to go because I don’t know what each title means. Now I want to register on a website, a kind of online community for BDSM’ers, and I have to choose a role. What should I choose? ”

Could this have come out of your mouth? Do not worry! You do n’t have to make hasty decisions and choose a rolebecause you think you should. It’s okay if you temporarily don’t have a label. The undecided label ensures that other BDSM employees know your current status. They know that you cannot identify with a particular role yet. Once you have found a suitable role, you can change the label undecided. In addition, the undecided label is very useful to use on forums or online communities if you don’t know what role you want to take on. This way you can read up on the different topics, but you don’t have to choose yet.

Why would you choose this label?

Are you thinking about using the label undecided? We give you the pros and cons of this label.

The advantages:

  • A novice in the field of BDSM can easily look around which roles there are.
  • You don’t have to make hasty decisions.
  • When you are no longer satisfied with your current role, you can use undecided to search for a new label.
  • You can use this label to be temporarily neutral when it comes to rolls. You don’t always have to have a specific role.

The cons:

  • You can determine how long you use the label undecided, but that is also your pitfall. It does not put pressure on the kettle to find a role that suits you so you can walk around for years without a clear role.
  • Other BDSM employees don’t know exactly what they can do until they ask you.

How do you choose a BDSM role?

Choosing a BDSM role does not always go smoothly. Tip: Read many informative documents about BDSM and the associated roles. Then check the following:

  • Where is your interest?
  • What do you want?
  • What do you not want?
  • What do you want to achieve with your role?

Don’t be afraid to try it out if you have the label undecided. Trying different things will help you figure out what suits you and what doesn’t . Always do this with someone you trust so that you can get to know different forms and roles of BDSM in a safe and responsible way.