More important than your skills in bed, your skills with rope or proficiency with a flogger is your skill at making your partner feel desired. That desire that will spill out of every move you make during a scene and will impact your partner much more than any one thing you’ll do to them or how well you do it. Pussy licking skills are nice, stamina is important, being able to read the moment and react accordingly is a beautiful trait, but making your partner feel desired, wanted and as if they were the most important person in the world while in the throws of your passion is pure fucking magic.

If you want to work on something or bring the flame back to a fading spark, ask yourself an important question, do I make my partner feel desired and if not, what can I do to change that? That’ll be something only you can find the answer to and that answer will change everything.