Feeding Both Wolves

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“If you feed them right, they both win.” and the story goes on:

“You see, if I only choose to feed the white wolf, the black one will be hiding around every corner waiting for me to become distracted or weak and jump to get the attention he craves.

He will always be angry and will always fight the white wolf. But if I acknowledge him, he is happy and the white wolf is happy and we all win.

For the black wolf has many qualities – tenacity, courage, ruthless, superiority, pride, fearlessness, strong-willed, Narcissism, Machiavellianism, impulsivity, selfishness, callousness, and remorselessness, greed and great strategic thinking–that I have need of at times.

These are the very things the white wolf lacks. But the white wolf has compassion, joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, faith caring, strength and the ability to recognize what is in the best interest of all.

“You see, son, the white wolf needs the black wolf at his side. To feed only one would starve the other and they will become uncontrollable. To feed and care for both means they will serve you well and do nothing that is not a part of something greater, something good, something of life.

Feed them both and there will be no more internal struggle for your attention. And when there is no battle inside, you can listen to the voices of deeper knowing that will guide you in choosing what is right in every circumstance. Peace, my son, is the Cherokee mission in life. A man or a woman who has peace inside has everything. A man or a woman who is pulled apart by the war inside him or her has nothing.

**What Wolf Are You Feeding?**

The first ending tells us to look inside ourselves and understand the consequences of your actions.

You choose to only be lazy, arrogant, full of anger and regret, and the black wolf wins. This can’t possibly be good for you. He is bad, isn’t he?

You choose to only be kind, generous, humble, full of hope and empathy, the white wolf wins. That will make you a wonderful person, that can’t possibly go wrong.

Truth is, the world, people, actions, consequences, all of that would be so much easier if it all worked like that.

Black is Bad, White is Good.

But the world is Gray.

Be always kind and selfless, people will take advantage of you, use you as a stepping stone. Be arrogant and selfish, you will have nothing and no one to back you up. Lack the courage and tenacity to pursue your dreams, you will never achieve anything.

The real secret to success is Balance. You need both sides to be whole. Be kind, but also brave. Be fearless, but compassionate. Don’t let yourself get in the way of your own life, creating obstacles or running away from difficulties.

Now I ask you. Are you feeding both wolves, or is one hungry? I promise you, balance is going to set you up for success in both your personal, and professional life.

Which one are you going to feed?