Hold her, but don’t hold her down or back from her dreams. When you hold her or temporarily control her, let her escape the demons that life brings her way. Sooth her emotions and fill her body with pleasure and her heart with the treasure of knowledge that’s she’s yours and you’ll watch out for her. Not because she is helpless, but because we can all use a little help along the way.
Hold her, but don’t hold her down or keep her from reaching her goals. The goal of any relationship or BDSM dynamic is to add something to ones life. It’s not to be locked in a cage forever, just for a tasty night of play so when that cage door opens, she can soar higher than she ever has before.