How to love a broken girl
How many would benefit from an instruction book for that?
Its easy to love the carefree girls, the “normal” girls, the confident girls next door, but what about the broken girls? The girls with fortresses around their heart and shields in their eyes? The girls whose souls have aged beyond their earthly years? The girls with bodies and minds that have survived wars which would break the strongest of men?
Sometimes these girls should come with a warning label. The warning pendulum swings both ways. This warning is not only for how you must treat her but for all the ways she will ruin you.
1. You cannot love her gently. She does not realize she deserves to be loved. You must love her with a force that can crush mountains. You must burn her soul so hot with your love that doubt melts away. Your love must be unconditional and you must show her on her very worst days.
2. She doesn’t know shes beautiful. She can get compliments all day and she wont believe it. There is a demon on her shoulder whispering that its not true. It takes a dozen compliments to erase one hurtful torment from her past. Shower her with compliments, be her cheerleader, until your words are her heartbeat instead of her doubts.
3. Chase her. I know we often have the attitude of not chasing anyone. I know it is said to be weak if we chase someone who walks away, but she needs to see you are weak for her. Sometimes a broken girl needs to see how much you need her. She needs to.see that vulnerability in your eyes to feel ok. She needs you to need her.
4. She needs routine. Broken girls over analyze everything. They notice everything, too. Did you stop asking her for pictures after some time passes? Did you stop using a pet name? Every broken pattern to her means the end of the only thing she has ever wanted and it terrifies her.
5. Smother her with affection. Touch her. Kiss her. Touch her some more. Broken girls have not experienced enough positive affection in their life. She will absorb every ounce as a person dying of thirst demands water. You cannot shower her with enough of a good touch.
6. Be honest and keep promises. Broken girls have not dared to dream much. Every vow made to her has been broken. Every promise has been a lie. She would rather you never let a promise escape your lips than have you utter false ones.
7. Prepare to drown. If she lets you inside her chaotic soul, you will be immersed in a madness you will not understand. She sometimes walks the balance beam of insanity and sometimes she will fall.
The biggest warning she should have is this.. if she loves you, it is forever. She will love you with a loyalty that will amaze you. She will be committed and her heart will beat your name. While she is still broken she will try to devour all of your pain. She will be perceptive to your wounds and eager to heal your soul. If she loves you, please be prepared that she will forever stay.