When it’s time to play, she likes it when I hold her down. Pressing her wrist against the bed, which causes her to get aroused while feeling trapped by my physical dominance. When we play, she loves the feeling of being held down by chains, cuffs, ropes or just my hands.

But when I’m simply loving on her in our day to day exchanges, she adores the feeling of being lifted up, supported and encouraged to be the best version of herself whenever she can be.

A loving touch and daily affirmations can make her feel like she can face anything, not because I create the strength within her, but because I help nurture and support it.

Some people like her want to be dominated and held down in the bedroom. But anywhere else, she wants and desires to be lifted up in all ways.