How many times have you ever thought to yourself, the problem isn’t them, it’s me?
It seems like a rare trait. The ability to take ownership of a problem by not trying to blame someone else, but rather recognize your role in the creation of the predicament.
It’s a hard thing to do. It’s much more convenient to blame someone or something else for your feelings or situation or whatever it is you might be dealing with. But the truth is, it will only get better when you take ownership of it, when its yours to own.
There’s a famous saying that says you’ll never solve a problem if you don’t recognize there is one.
While being aware there is an issue is fundamental to being able to address it, knowing it’s cause and the main source will be essential in not just the solution, but ultimately in being able to overcome it in a long-term sense.
If you never take ownership of your part in creating the issue at hand, then you’ll continue to just create new problems by lashing out at others with a misdirected hostility and spend more time in a state of anger, instead of in a state of self-reflection.
Sometimes the villain of our narrative isn’t your perceived enemies, but rather the villain of the story is your inability to take ownership over which you’re responsible for, which is yourself and your actions and your reactions.