Above all, a good Master is always in control of himself. He does not rant or rave, and never punishes when angry. On the rare times that temper overwhelms him, he walks away until he regains balance. After all, how can a Dom control her sub if he can’t control himself?


A good Dominant puts time, energy and creativity in his scenes. He is not satisfied playing the same games over and over, and goes the extra length to come up with new and different ideas.


The best Master knows he is human. He realizes he will make mistakes, and is quick to apologize when he does. He knows he won’t be thought of as any less “Domly” because of an apology. On the flip side, he realizes that others will make mistakes also, and even though he may punish for the mistake, he accepts an apology graciously and puts the event in the past.


A good Master is compassionate. He cares about his sub(s), friends and family. He takes time to listen and respond to the needs of others. He isn’t selfish and doesn’t have the illusion that the world revolves around him.


A good Dom works on his play technique. He knows how to use his toys and practices frequently. He reads the latest books and talks to others in the scene. An effective Master tests his toys on himself before he uses them on his sub.


The best Doms is consistent in his instructions and requests. He doesn’t give his sub conflicting commands. He delivers equal punishment for equal offenses, and equal rewards when pleased. He is firm in his direction and does not waiver when faced with a difficult situation.


An effective Dominant is thorough. He directs a scene from start to finish to better allow his sub to achieve subspace. He takes away all distractions and decisions… telling his sub what position he desires, what needs he wants fufilled, and how this is best accomplished.


A good Master respects himself and others. He strives to always project himself in the best possible light, and expects the same from his submissive(s). He is well-groomed, and takes pride in he looks. He takes good care of his toys and equipment.


A Dom worth playing with is safe. He is aware of the damage he can cause a submissive and does his best to prevent harm. He knows first-aid and attends classes periodically to keep himself updated.


A good Master is an effective communicator. He says what he means, and means what he says. He is specific and chooses his words carefully. He doesn’t rant, nag or whine because he knows this shows a lack of control. He states instructions in a clear, easy-to-understand manner.
I was asked what I see is good qualities of a master should have this is what I think and found to be am sure their is a lot more