I want to caution men out there with the same exact advice I’d give to women. If a woman is not sleeping (intimacy) with you; if a woman is not committing to you; if a woman is not making an effort for you, the odds are that she is just not that into you.
We can make all the world excuses about “taking it slow,” but people who are excited about each other rarely take it slow.
Of course, let her know how you feel ASAP. You’d like to move things along physically but are willing to respect her wishes, as long as you know that you’re in an exclusive relationship. And if she can’t make that promise to you, then you’re going to have to think long and hard as to whether you want to commit to someone who is so decidedly indifferent towards you.
For women: Signs He’s just not that into you.
Men do what they want. Unless they have a gun to their head or are trapped under a fallen boulder, they’re going to call you if they want to call you, and treat you well if they want to treat you well and commit to you if they want to commit to you.
Thus, if a man is not treating you the way you want to be treated, you have two choices — stay or go.
But if you refuse to go. Instead, you stay and complain about how poorly you’re being treated.
Yet you must realize that no one can treat you in any way that you don’t allow yourself to be treated.
Then Dump the guy, and he can’t treat you anyway.
Stay with him, and he can treat you how he’s treating you. Trying to convince him to call you more, care about you more, and see you more is a futile endeavor.
If You allow him to walk on you and then act surprised when he walks on you. So here’s what I want you to understand:
If He WAS honest with you. You are the one who is not being honest with herself.
Sorry if that sounds like a bit of a verbal bitchslap, but the truth hurts.