People are pretty good about telling you who and what they are. Sure, they may use words to try and deceive you, but if you observe them long enough, they’ll tell you who they are by their actions.
If someone is always in chaos but it’s never their fault, yet they’re always the common denominator then you’ll need to use some deductive reasoning and make a determination if this is someone you want to spend your time with.
A couple of things to remember
1. All their crazy exes were perfectly fine when they were with them, but became crazy only after the breakup? Weird how that works.
2. People who never own their mistakes, also never learn from them.
3. Where there is smoke there is usually fire. If you walk into a dumpster fire because they convinced you it was just fog, is a mistake you’ll have to own.
If you really want to know someone, watch them, it’ll tell you more than their words ever will.