If you don’t take the time to understand what her submission means
Her obedience isn’t a sign of weakness, its a sign of devotion.
Her desire to kneel before you doesn’t mean she thinks she’s less than you, it means at your feet is her safe and favorite place.
Her need to be tied up and spanked doesn’t mean she’s easy, it means she’s kinky.
Her choice to submit to you isn’t an invitation for you to do whatever you please. It’s a request to understand her and respect her and her hard limits.
If you don’t take the time to understand what her submission means, then you’ll never understand her in a meaningful way either.