As every Dom is unique an different in his own ways on how he wants his sub/slave to be this is just an example of what one can expect.

Being Dominant/submissive is a state of mind. It is not a sex act, it is not a game, and it is not a role. It is a state of being and is totally asexual (neither male nor female)

First and foremost, a Dominant is always a Gentleman or Lady. There is no excuse for being impolite or rude to others. Save this for the submissive that needs and requires this of their Dominant.

Second, a Dominant must always be in control. Drugs, even alcohol, are mind and body controlling agents. They affect relationships and most importantly, can affect a scene, therefore taking away the control the Dominant MUST have. Emotions of the Dominant also play a role. If the Dominant is unable to control His/Her Own emotions, He/She is in no condition to be attempting to control another.

Third, a Dominant is always honest. To lie is to show you cannot be trusted, and a submissive must be able to trust you to respect you. Every submissive knows that not every Dominant is super experienced and will respect you much more if you tell the truth. Be honest with a submissive about your level of experience with others and the submissive. The submissive can even help you to gain experience and is really an enjoyable learning process. Tell the submissive up-front if You do not wish a monogamous relationship. Most submissives understand and even expect this in a Dominant. You may not get “that” submissive, but you will not lose her/his respect.

Fourth, a Dominant accepts responsibility for all his/her actions. Everyone makes mistakes. Do what is needed to make amends and correct it. Accept and admit the fact that you messed up. To seek an excuse for something going wrong or hurting, someone will cause you to lose respect.

Fifth, a Dominant expects but does not demand respect. No Dominant demands strangers to call him/her Master/Mistress. Respect is earned over time. Demanding Master/Mistress on your name means nothing and is a word that when not earned is meaningless and makes you to others appear to be a petty, childish fool. Those that know you and respect you will call you Master or Mistress when you earn it, not before. Remember, to other Dominants you are not Their Master/Mistress you are their equal do not DEMAND them to ever call You that.

Sixth, a Dominant knows and understands the differences between needs, desires, and wants. The submissive may want a 24/7 relationship with an understanding Dominant. The submissive may desire a short relationship with a crude, rude person. The submissive may need a stable sharing marriage with children.